Today, the famous Russian coach Mikhail Shirin will talk about the possibilities of bringing back your angry lover. Mikhail is busy rebuilding broken relationships and knows better than anyone else what to do to avoid such situations.
The return process can be divided into 5 categories.
1. Ongoing relationships, "the situation suddenly began to deteriorate."
Duration - this is 1 year or more. In my experience it is usually 3 years or more. I will explain later why there are such time limits.
In fact, the situation is slowly getting worse. But my client doesn’t notice it, throws it into a temporary difficulty, and thinks I’ll overcome it. It doesn’t matter that the challenges are increasing day by day. No, I’m not saying people are blind, they just don’t notice the changes that are happening slowly. For example, we may not notice that we are growing older, we may be surprised to see a difference when we compare old and new photos. Similarly, a person analyzes their relationship - ehh, a year ago everything was fine, now it is.
As a result, a difficult situation arises. Usually it’s a big fight (sometimes several times in a row); sometimes the decision that this girl is leaving (divorcing) on one of those wonderful days, sometimes it can be an outright betrayal. The man will then try to solve the problem as best he can for 1-2-3 months. The situation becomes even more confusing and then he turns to a specialist. "Doctor, I'm in trouble, help me. Make sure the problem is solved tomorrow. ”
In this case, the chance of achieving the goal is 30%. If it is left to someone else, then it will change depending on the situation. If your girlfriend loved someone else long before she left and compared you, if you believed in her with both heart and mind, your chances of getting her back are -10%. If the anger is gone, that is, to the person encountered, then, on the contrary, the chances increase by 40-50%. Only this work can last 6 months or more.
2. A very short relationship, "the situation suddenly started to get worse."
A "very short relationship" is a period of 4-6 months. Sometimes it can last only 1 month.
Unlike the first category, here events happen quickly (less than a month); so the person does not have time to seriously damage the relationship. Maybe the girl wasn’t fully involved in the relationship, so she doesn’t even appreciate it. In such a relationship, the girl either "did not have time to fall in love" or "did not have time to dislike." One of the reasons for this is that a man who does not justify trust, that is, a young man, finds out that the relationship is different, not like in the "gift-greeting" period. The second reason is the loss of male dignity.
The capacity level is 10-70%. It's hard to say for sure. The situation is different in every relationship. But it should be noted that the longer the relationship lasts, the higher the chances.
3. Short-term relationships, "the situation suddenly started to get worse."
"Short-term relationship" - 6-12 months.
In this category, the girl manages to get into the relationship and appreciates it. The young man manages to notice that the situation is getting worse and asks me for help. The problem here is related to the imbalance of dignity, so the situation becomes much more complicated.
The probability rate is 50-70%, depending on the reasons for the divorce. It is close to 50% when it comes to the imbalance of value and close to 70% when it comes to meeting needs.
4. Short relationship, “problems started”.
It’s not about returning, because the relationship is so short, the girl hasn’t had time to leave yet. I teach my client to build relationships properly so that problems in such a situation do not lead to separation. Another of the problems is that young people lack the endurance to overcome difficulties, but if they try, it all ends well. In rare cases, a girl will be unworthy to build a relationship and I would advise my client to divorce her.
Capacity - 80%.
5. Ongoing relationships, “problems started”.
The guy comes to me, realizing that his relationship with the girl is not happy enough. It may not be a divorce right now, but it can’t be said that they are happy. This is the simplest case and reconciling them is a very interesting job for me.
Capacity - 99%.
The simple truth: it is necessary to act as soon as you feel the problem, the longer the situation becomes more difficult. If you find yourself ignoring your long-standing relationship, no one can help you if you don’t act.
