Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

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Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

A young man called the editorial office. To be honest, his address surprised us a lot, leading to a long discussion. Even some of our colleagues, unaware of this telephone conversation, asked, "Was it really a call?" they wondered. It turned out that this guy was going to have a wedding soon. The bride has to look her best during this time, because of posterity more than anything else. When asked why, he said he was afraid of the chimpanzee.

After the young man's appeal, my colleagues told me one by one what an acquaintance, a neighbor, a friend had experienced. One of them was intimidated by his yangalarau friends before the wedding with his horrible remarks about the chimpanzee, and finally told that his family had broken up, while the other went on to tell of the sufferings of the bride, who knew nothing. When you think about it, the issue is really serious. It is said that on the eve of marriage, the soul of the bride and groom is so delicate that even a delicate word like flax can cause him great loss. So, bottom line is that we're really looking forward to it. The information we have collected, what we want to tell you, future brides!

Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

Young people, be careful!

As the bride and groom step on the threshold and enter the chimpanzee, the role of the yangs is great. It is one of the ancient traditions of our people that they are two years old. But some yangs just ignore our wedding night traditions, and some even look at it as a pastime. And because of their misbehavior, some young families fall into a whirlpool of lifelong unhappiness. Because the next life path of a young family, love for each other depends in every way on the first wedding night.

 

This is not to say that yang services should be abandoned altogether. After all, someone should advise young couples who have no knowledge of sex education! But it is good to be very careful in this regard, to beware of unpleasant words from the bride and groom in delicate moments.

 

But the preparatory work for the first visol evening should not be limited to loading only the yangs. In fact, mothers and sisters should not be indifferent to this. As soon as the future bride is engaged, it is advisable to have private conversations with her and teach relevant lessons in a beautiful style. It is absolutely wrong for young people to tell the future bride about the negative aspects of their lives and unpleasant impressions. The task of innovation requires deep observation, sharia, spiritual and even medical literacy.

 

What caused the first night’s suffering? Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

Sometimes it is not possible to reunite on the night of the first wedding. If you know the reasons for this, you will also find a precautionary measure.

 

Reasons for grooms, ie grooms:

lack of understanding of the female psyche, complete ignorance of the methods of "melting" it;

knowing that sex is a very complex and difficult task;

mental unpreparedness: tired of the anxieties of the Uzbek wedding, the temporary incompetence of the first night to the client's sluggishness;

ignorance of the structure and peculiarities of the female genitals;

attenuation of the client as a result of various inflammatory diseases.

Causes in girls, ie brides:

mental unpreparedness for sexual intercourse; not understanding their duty, thinking that joining is only a process related to the groom;

not realizing that excessive resistance to the groom in the chimpanzee, pushing the groom, etc. are among the factors that sharply extinguish the male sexual desire;

not realizing that sex is the main link between a couple in the future and thinking that this situation, i.e. joining, is disgusting due to improper upbringing;

The main reason is the presence in medicine of a condition called "vaginismus" (a condition characterized by involuntary contraction and squeezing of the vagina, pelvic floor, occasional thigh and lower abdominal muscles during sexual intercourse or gynecological examination).

Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear Important rules

The following tips can help prevent a number of problems:

 

First of all, remember that praying to Allah for the "goodness of marriage" is inherited from our ancestors!

Remember and follow that freedom is a beautiful quality.

Let a pleasant fragrance emanate from the kitchen, the bedroom, and yourself. But spraying very pungent odors is also not pleasant. It is important to remember that the limit of fragrance is also measured by modesty.

It is also advisable for the bride, who is walking towards Goshan, to take a bath and cleanse her body of impurities. Our grandparents never set foot on their beds without ablutions.

There is also great wisdom in the young bride and groom performing the two rak'ahs of supererogatory prayer on the first evening. Medical scientists also acknowledge the positive effect of this prayer in the corner, which removes anxiety and dangers and suppresses the excitement and fears of young people.

If your first night of visals coincides with the day of your menstrual process, or the groom enters the goshan drunk, it should be gently explained that the process of reunion will take place in a few days. Indeed, intercourse during menstruation is forbidden in our religion. In medicine, too, contact made at such a time has been found to cause pain. In this case, it is also not possible to identify the sign of virginity. This can lead to suspicion in the heart of the groom, and later even family breakdown.

Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

Before sexual intercourse, say Bismillah and pray, "O Allah, keep us and our child away from Satan."

Don’t believe the false, frightening advice before the wedding, the baseless rumors about the horrible pains of the first night. Keep in mind that the bride’s misbehavior, inability to keep her body loose, and strong resistance can cause the vagina muscles to contract and cause some pain.

Keep in mind that a girl’s excessive resistance can stifle the groom’s passion and even lead to the development of mental and sexual weakness in him.

Remember the rules of Islamic ghusl after sexual intercourse, that is, perform hygienic procedures. Some young people do not even know what ghusl is. Usually women have to perform ghusl after sexual intercourse and after menstruation and menstrual bleeding.

 

The order of ghusl is as follows:

Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

Initially, ghusl is intended.

The private parts are washed.

Ablution is performed as before ablution.

Water is poured on the head, then on the right and left shoulders, and the body is thoroughly rubbed.

There should be no dry area left on the body when bathing. If the hair is cut, it is not necessary to spread. However, water must touch the underside of the hair. If there is bath water left under the feet, the feet are washed again. One should not turn towards the qibla while performing ghusl.

 

3-day "diet"

It is wrong for some grooms to try to have sex several times on the first night. Because it poses a risk of blood loss. It is usually necessary to stop sexual intercourse for at least three days after the removal of the veil of chastity. Otherwise, the pain of intercourse can cause the young bride to abstain from sexual intercourse, and even suffer from various ailments (frigidity, vaginismus, genitals). If in the days after the first evening there is an increase in pain and bleeding, it is advisable to take the young bride to the gynecologist.

 

Exemplary advice Chimildiq - young bride and groom - fear

The teachings of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) as he took his daughters Fatima to his house as a bride are very instructive for today's girls:

 

“Daughter, keep yourself clean. Remember your Lord and purify your body with water. Let your husband be happier than you. Put riding on your eyes, because riding is an adornment for women. Apply olive oil on your head, and the devil will not approach a woman who has olive oil on her head.

O Fatima! Do not close your eyes when your husband looks at you, so that your love may grow stronger. When your husband looks the other way, look at his face, and you will be rewarded for fasting for a month.

O Fatima! Don’t refuse when your husband calls you to bed. If you refuse, you will be cursed by Allah.

O Fatima! Rejoice in intimacy, so that your husband's love may increase and he may not love another.

O Fatima! Do not tell anyone about your husband's shortcomings and faults, or you will be hated by Allah, the Prophet, the angels and your husband.

O Fatima! This is what Gabriel told me. "

A mother with a radiant face said, "How did you get such a look?" they asked. He said, “I have put the Truth on my lips, the remembrance in my voice, the honesty in my eyes, the charity in my hands, and the straightness in my feet. I have also found in my heart the love of Allah, the wisdom of my mind, the obedience of my desires, and the faith of my greed. ” Be one of them!