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Our culture and tradition dictate that the first sexual intercourse that occurs in the life of every man and woman is in the womb. In general, there are those who are lucky enough to enter the moth, and there are those who are not. In any case, at the time of the first sexual intercourse, a certain state of excitement is naturally observed in all couples. So, what should be paid attention to in order to make the first meeting as memorable as you would like, and what should be done in general, medically, in case of tickling? Today's article is about this. Expert andrologist-sexopathologist Dilmurod ERGASHEV.
Shifting of the days of the month
It is true that it is difficult to manage emotions on the wedding day. After all, you are in the center of attention of two or three hundred people, can't you be excited?! But even so, try to catch yourself. Because short disturbances in the emotional state cause menstruation, and in some people, pain in the head and muscles. It is better not to resort to sedatives or painkillers (unless you have a serious reason). Most of these types of drugs thin the blood, which can lead to an increase in the number of periods.
If the bride begins to menstruate on the first night of the marriage, they will not be married. You know it well. But some ambitious young people are not afraid to take risks, saying, "If the difference is small, there is no harm, let's not prolong the time." However, intercourse in such a case is forbidden both in medicine and in our religion.
Pain during sex…
If you remember, we talked about vaginism through our page. Vaginismus, which is accompanied by spasm of the vaginal muscles, hinders intimacy, and the couple cannot have sex. Among the causes of the disease, there are also images of stuttering, especially pain, from the first wedding night, from the realities of childhood.
In fact, will there be pain on the first night or not? First of all, it depends on the groom's complete answer to the question "what will be done at the wedding", behavior, behavior and general condition of the bride. The more tense the body, the more tense the muscles. As a result, there may be pain during intercourse or vaginal bleeding. Because at this time the muscles of the vagina are tightened and the mucous substance that facilitates intercourse does not separate.
Pain can be caused not only by the fear of ticks, but also by diseases of the genitals. Therefore, a medical examination before the wedding is considered very important.
If the hymen is preserved...
Don't be surprised, it will happen. In fact, the hymen is about 1,5-3 cm between the vagina and its cavity. It consists of folds of the mucous membrane located inside. Hymen, i.e. hymen, differs in several types according to its anatomical structure. In medicine, violation of the hymen is called defloration, and this phenomenon occurs on the first wedding night. Absence of defloration may also depend on the elasticity and strength of the hymen. Also, if the hymen is very sparsely supplied with blood vessels and nerve fibers or completely free from them, there is a possibility that bleeding and pain will not occur.
If defloration does not occur for several days after the wedding, it is necessary to go to the gynecologist without doubt. The specialist makes small incisions in the hymen to facilitate defloration.
After the first meeting, sexual intimacy should be avoided for 3-5 days. If the rules of hygiene are fully observed during these days, the edges of the hymen will heal, and the next intercourse will be painless and without complications.
Chimiltiq, many mistakes that are repeated on the first wedding night
Sometimes, after intercourse, due to the disruption of the hymen, the separated blood fluid is absorbed into the stomach. The reason for this is that the bride did not squat down after mating. In many cases, unreasonable misunderstandings may arise because of this.
Sometimes the bride and groom cannot meet. There may be reasons for this on both sides. For example:
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The bride's lack of mental readiness for sexual intercourse;
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Believing in various myths about the first wedding night, the tick;
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Excessive resistance to the groom at the time of joining, squeezing the legs, pushing, and fear of physical pain are factors that sharply suppress male sexual desire.
On the other hand, some mistakes are made by the young man:
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Not being able to prepare the bride for marriage;
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Lack of understanding of the structure and characteristics of the female genitalia;
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Decreased menstruation due to various inflammatory diseases;
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Physical and mental stress, chronic fatigue.
Our message to young people...
In the past, I was very critical of the presence of yangs at weddings. It was as if I did not understand our habit. When I think about it, in fact, the role of yangs is different and important. It seems that the new yangs in our country have become the "correct" yangs in the new interpretation. For this reason, the attitude of the people towards the yangs has received a new interpretation. Well, we were a little distracted from the topic.
So, your new task is to prepare the bride-to-be for a new family life in a new family. Sometimes the new ones do the exact opposite.
Do not take lightly the task assigned to you. If possible, talk to the bride a few weeks (not days!) before the wedding. How he imagines the first wedding night, what he knows about it and what assumptions you need to clarify. Of course, ask.
Teach the rules of ablution before intercourse and washing afterwards. It will also be missed for the next life. Explain the importance of a delicate relationship between a couple, how they should actually be. It is better to speak in simpler language as much as possible. Stop saying things like, "If we don't do this, we'll be fine."
Even then, the girl is busy with various thoughts. At least you don't worry about it. It's best to teach situations such as what to do when it's time to meet and how to behave.
Yes, don't make noise to young people by repeating that you are running behind the door. At the time of meeting, this also caused anxiety and asked, "What if they hear?" invites the imagination.
Tips for the groom before the wedding…
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Do not think that the main goal of the first wedding night is to get together as soon as possible and perform defloration. The first impression of the night is important for the rest of your life.
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Caress your partner, say sweet words to relieve his panic. Don't be blind at all.
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In order for your partner to feel at ease, it is necessary to arouse his sexual desire. Then it will be easy to meet.
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Wedding rushes are exhausting, and on the first night, a lack of sexual desire can be observed. But this is temporary. Get a hold of yourself.
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Don't panic if the client gets sluggish at join time. This is due to the effect of intense excitement. Take it easy.
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In the later periods, until sex is normalized, such a situation as short sex can be observed in young bridegrooms. And if the reasons for this are short-term psychological factors, there is no need to worry.