Guest: in you marriage is not based on the love of a boy and a girl, but through some kind of suitor. Is that true?
Answer: true to the truth, but the gift does not deny love, but rather makes love a goal or not, turns love into a debt, creates love. We explained to him the essence of the gift. Suppose two young people express their love for each other and want to get married. At this age, they still have little life experience, and emotion prevails over insanity. Parents, in general, consult with adults, asking about the girl's side, the parents, the place of residence, the girl's behavior through suitors. At the same time, the girl side does the same and comes to an agreement, or the guy could not find a suitable girl for himself, but he has to get married. In Europe, in this case, "dating clubs", advertisements come in handy, and in our case, the work is done in the form of gifts. A young man and a woman who meet through a matchmaker test each other out for a certain period of time, and if a love bond develops between them, they get engaged and have a wedding.
The foreign guest will think.
I came to the conclusion that this is probably the reason why you have less family divorce than in Europe, he said.
In the cities, the boy's mother, aunt or uncle, visits the girl's house and sees the girl under the pretext of "coming as a guest." At the same time, the cleanliness of the house, the yard, the orderliness, how the table is decorated, the home, the friendliness of the guests of the owners.
Talking to the girl's mother, they follow the saying, "See the mother, take the daughter." According to Eastern etiquette, it is not polite for a young man's mother to talk about or praise her son. Another subtle aspect is that neither the bridesmaids nor the bridesmaids make words that offend each other, let’s say the bridesmaids didn’t like the bridesmaids. Even then, it is not said no openly. Words like "Our daughter is still young" and "Let her finish her studies" are said.
If the bridesmaids agree on the second or third visit, consent is given, the table brought by the bridesmaids is opened and the bread is broken, and then a "white dress" ceremony is held, in which the whiteness is given as a sign of consent. In this ceremony, the blessing is usually set on the wedding day, approximately the wedding day. The Fatiha wedding will be held at the future bride’s house. The table is set for the bridegroom, and when he is well received, he is rewarded on his return. Pre-wedding ceremonies: When the future bride is busy sewing the sarpo, her mother makes a “cotton solarium”. That is, the sisters cut the beds with the women next door and stuffed them with cotton.
The relatives of the bride who “sees the house” go to the groom, see the window, the door and the house, and sew the curtains. The ceremony was performed in secret, as marriage teaching was banned during the Soviet era. Now that it is registered in government offices, it will be taught at a nearby mosque or at the girl’s house. When the Imam explains to the two-year-old the duties and rights of the couple, the sanctity of the family, and after obtaining the consent of the bride and groom, he recites the ‘khutba marriage’. Wedding day: according to the ancient Uzbek tradition, the wedding ceremony is held at the groom's house. On the wedding evening, a game with the groom's friends comes to the bride with laughter, and there the wedding festivities continue, and at the end of the feast the bridegroom comes out with sarpos. Then the exciting moments for the bride begin. His relatives gather and prepare to pass. The bride is dressed in a white dress and taken out to say goodbye to her relatives, such as her father, mother, grandfather, and uncle. It is also a ceremony that brings tears to the eyes of many women.
