Getting a hymen is in the language of medicine defloration (lat. de "Remove, eliminate" + flowers, flowers "Flower, youth, virginity", get virginity) is called. The hymen can be removed during the first sexual intercourse. The curtain stretches, and if the insertion is done roughly, in the absence of fluids that reduce natural or artificial friction, microcracks appear in the curtain and it bleeds, but it itself remains unchanged. It is also possible to avoid cracks so that the first sexual intercourse takes place without bleeding. The removal of the hymen consists of two aspects (aspect, point of view): physiological and psychological.

Physiological aspect

Sources and mechanisms of defloration. The classification is based on AN Samoylichenko.

Sometimes the hymen may not be present at birth.
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In addition, artificial defloration - the hymen can be surgically removed at the patient’s discretion or according to medical instructions. As a rule, such an operation is performed when the membrane completely closes the entrance to the vagina and prevents menstrual discharge.

Bleeding when virginity is obtained

The amount of hymen rupture is individual (usually once or twice, but can be more). It is usually localized in the rectal area of ​​the eardrum, sometimes in the urethral area.

Weak or heavy bleeding may be observed in defloration. The amount of blood depends on the individual characteristics of the structure of the hymen. Based on data on the hymen, rupture of the hymen is accompanied by a small amount of bleeding and mild pain, in rare cases the hymen is not congenital or careless masturbation, with some active sports may be lost as a result of exercise, in which case bleeding and pain are not observed.

Defloration of the thick or densely packed membrane, as a rule, is accompanied by heavy bleeding (up to 3-5 days of bleeding) and intense pain. Bleeding and pain may be severe, moderate, or nonexistent in different women. At the age of 20-22, due to changes in the base of the hymen and a decrease in elastic fibers, defloration is always accompanied by more bleeding and more intense pain when a girl is over 22 years old. Thus, from a morphofunctional point of view, the most suitable period for defloration is the age range of 15-19 years.

In the first 2-3 days after defloration, the edges of the crack may open and bleed as a result of manipulations on the study of the membrane. Having sex during this period also leads to similar results.

About getting a hymen

The influence of psychological factors in this process cannot be ignored. The girl must be spiritually ready to lose her virginity and trust her partner completely. Physically, sex with defloration is not much different from normal sex. The only difference is that, as mentioned above, pain and bleeding may be observed for the first time. Therefore, to reduce bleeding and pain, you need to know how to remove the hymen. In doing so, one should be very careful and treat the virgin girl as gently as possible.

Rules of correct defloration

First of all, you should try to create the desired atmosphere in the room, for this you need quiet romantic music, semi-bright lighting, a large bed, the atmosphere in general is light. Before undergoing defloration, the girl should be passionate enough, as this will result in the walls of the vagina getting wet. The more moisture, the easier it is to inject and the less pain is felt. To do this, you need to caress, make gentle movements, do some actions to strengthen your passion.

You can then proceed directly to the sexual act. According to the medical staff, the best position for the first sexual intercourse is the so-called missionary pose. It is good to put a small pillow under the girl's pelvis, the most important thing is that both couples feel comfortable. Gradually, without rapid movements, the head of the penis should be inserted into the vagina until an obstruction is felt inside. During this time, the girl should not stop being passionate, she should be as relaxed as possible. Then with a confident but not strong tattoo an attempt is made to overcome this obstacle.

In most cases, no unusual attempts are needed to tear the hymen. Once the curtain is cracked, it should stop for a minute or two. Let the girl get used to the situation, if pain is felt, she should wait for it to stay. It is important not to stop passionate actions at this point, because often during defloration the passion decreases sharply, it is necessary to try to restore it, and then continue.

Keep in mind that the process of getting virginity is considered inappropriate to rush. Haste during defloration, on the other hand, makes the pain more intense, with the result that all attempts are in vain.

The social significance of defloration

Loss of virginity is considered an important life event as the first sexual experience. The loss of virginity can be seen as an important stage of development in relation to personal and cultural acceptance. Historically, this process has had a strong impact on gender roles. So this is equated with pride for men and shame for women. But in recent years, this effect has become insignificant.

Restoration of the hymen

In some sources, natural regeneration in the form of regenerative regeneration of the hymen refloration Although the procedures are mentioned, today it is done using plastic surgery hymenoplasty can be restored by transferring.