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CHILD ABDUCTION
Theft - kleptomania and child abduction are not related. Theft is a mental disorder and is a rare childhood illness. This means that theft in children is not related to kleptomania, but to a child's mental disorder.
CAUSES OF THEFT IN CHILDREN
There is a reason for theft at every age. Causes of theft in preschool children:
1. The strength of the desire to have something. For example, a friend's dream of a new toy causes the child to steal the toy. In this case, the child has confused the concepts of "mine", "yours", "his" and "everyone's". However, the dream behind the toy lies in the fact that the parents are not interested in the wishes of the child.
2. A child steals because he wants to give a gift to his relatives. This means that the child is rarely given a gift by the parents, which creates a situation of self-satisfaction by showing this desire to others. Often children give their mothers the product of theft, and we can say that the mother does not show mercy.
3. Theft in order to attract others. Underlying someone's desire to make something their own is to overcome the fact that their peers do not recognize them.
4. Appropriation for the purpose of punishing or retaliating against someone.
5. When your child is 8-11 years old, theft can be involuntary. The reason is that he could not say "Impossible" instead of "I want".
6. Theft of a child aged 12-15 years is a deliberate step.
10 rules to follow when detecting a theft.
Rules for each parent:
• Rule 1: Explain to your child what theft is. Stop stealing! Explain the responsibility with examples. chёtko vыskazat otritsatelnuyu otsenku deystviyam rebёnka (deystviyam, a ne lichnosti!) s konkretnыm zapretom na vorovstvo.
• Rule 2: Give an idea of the behavior of a person who has stolen something and how he feels about the thief.
• Rule 3: Refrain from labeling or hating your child as a “thief”. Explain that you love your child and that you hate what he or she is doing. Don't let your child, who is currently a thief, become a thief.
• Rule 4: Analyze the theft case on your own. Do not disclose this incident to strangers. Fight alone, tell your good side in front of everyone
• Rule 5: “How could you do that!”, “Didn't you think of my face ?!” Don't put your child into a world of emotions that you don't understand by using adult words like This will do more harm than good with the accusations you make.
• Rule 6: Don't compare yourself to other peers and to your own youth. Your child's psyche will not be able to understand your speech, which begins with "When I am like you."
• Rule 7: When analyzing a theft, be moderate so that the next time you learn not to hide your mistake.
• Rule 8: Once you have analyzed, agree that this item will not be returned. Explain that you should not remember this incident anymore and that your child should not remember it either. Each time you remember, encourage your child to look for reasons to do so and to find excuses.
• Rule 9: Look for ways to eliminate the cause of theft.
• Rule 10: Understand that a flaw in the family and a mistake in your upbringing can lead to your child stealing.
© Zebiniso Ahmedova
(From the book "Counseling of a psychologist in difficult situations in the upbringing of children")
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