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Comparing children to other children
We have been compared, we will also compare. We think that comparing themselves with others will have a good effect on children, and they will learn the good sides of other children.
Today we will talk about the negative aspects of comparing our children to other children. There are several downsides to this:
1. Children feel that they are not loved as much as they should be. We can see this in our example. If our spouse shows us another person's spouse as an example, we will certainly get angry. We begin to hate the compared person, and we want to say to our spouse, "build a family with that person." It's the same with children...
2. You teach children to constantly compare themselves with others. Of course, this is bad, because children have different abilities. We are always better than someone in some matter, we are always deficient in some matter. Children lose self-confidence by comparing themselves with those who are stronger than them, or on the contrary, they may become proud.
3. A child who is constantly compared may forget who he is and what he wants. That is, the desire to be like their favorite person - the person their parents want, can make children forget what they are and what they want. As a result, your child may not be able to live the life of another person and be happy.
4. Comparison can hurt you too. Children are angry at a young age, but do not say anything. Older children can give you the same answer. That is, someone compares you with their parents. Parents and opportunities are different, it hurts you to compare yourself with those who have more opportunities and time for their children. If you go for them and they tell others...
The person who can be compared is the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, and his companions. The beautiful life of our Prophet, peace be upon him, is the best example for us to live a perfect Muslim life.
Next time you want to criticize your child, be careful! Tell why you are upset with your child, not the good of others.