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Reasons for divorce and its negative consequences
Plan:
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The main reasons for divorce
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Reasons for separation of urban and rural families
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Opinions of psychologists
1. The main reasons for divorce. "He has created for you mates from among your own mates, so that you may marry them happily. He created a feeling of love between you. This is Allah's one of the signs of biru-being. There are many signs and signs in this for those who think intelligently" (Sura Rum, verse 21).
I found this topic more difficult to cover than other topics, especially intelligence. The reason is that everyone knows what they have been through, but we tried to explain it as much as we could. Look at this, women are given more responsibility in this matter as well
In this matter, we will refer to more numbers, tables and real-life examples.
2. Reasons for separation of urban and rural families (percentage)
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8 |
Economic difficulty in family life |
8 |
33 |
— |
45 |
9 |
Age and sex disparity |
7,5 |
3,5 |
17,5 |
15 |
10 |
Infertility |
27 |
35 |
— |
2,5 |
11 |
Infidelity |
7,5 |
7,5 |
10 |
10 |
12 |
Spouse's neglect of children's upbringing, or incompatibility of upbringing methods |
7 |
12 |
— |
7,5 |
13 |
Mental and somatic diseases |
5,0 |
2 |
12 |
17 |
14 |
Jealousy |
7,5 |
12 |
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15 |
15 |
Spouse not living with the family for a long time |
— |
5 |
7,5 |
10 |
16 |
The presence of another family |
— |
10 |
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According to the data of the table, a large percentage of the main reasons for divorce arise from the rudeness of the spouse, the interference of parents and other relatives in the life of young people, and the unpreparedness of the spouse for family life. Among young people, the lack of feelings of love and careless family building is only a small percentage.
If we analyze the above psychologically, most of the divorces are caused by ignoring the culture of dealing with young people or their lack of culture of dealing with them, interfering with the family life of adults and young people, not considering the feelings of young people who are building a family, parents deciding the fate of young people in their own way. solution, stems from the fact that young people are not ready for life. Parents, educators, teachers should pay special attention to the above.
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Opinions of psychologists. According to the results of scientific research conducted by psychologists ENS Sattorov, NA Soginov, E.Usmanov on Uzbek families, the formation of the family, its strength, family disputes, crime, tragedies, including the most dangerous period of suicide It corresponds to 18-30-year-olds. Most of the divorces in Uzbek families are observed in these young people. It is surprising that the happiest moments in a person's life also fall on this period. According to estimates, the appearance of schizophrenia, which is a common mental illness, is noticeable at this age. According to psychiatrists, the complexity of the age period is also at the basis of the occurrence of genetic diseases in these years.
One out of every eight new families breaks up within a year, and one out of every four families breaks up before five years. Russia, Ukraine, Belarus, Lithuania, Latvia, and Estonia take the leading place among European countries in terms of divorce rates. According to some researchers, 64 percent of divorces in the former USSR are caused by women. According to scientists, the largest part of divorce falls on 30-34 years old, that is, 7-10 years of family life. But when we analyze this information in depth, we see that in the first 5 years in such families, a psychological decision occurs, and in 7-10 years it is formalized by law. So, the most dangerous time for a family is the first 5 years of marriage. This opinion is confirmed by the Uzbek folk proverb, "Don't go seven years closer to a newlywed."
The younger the couple, scientists say, the more conflicts there are during this period. Due to their youth and lack of experience, they think that "our love is dead" or, even worse, they come to the conclusion that "I made a mistake in choosing a life partner, I am still young, I will correct my mistake." When the groom says to himself, "The street is full of women," the bride says, "Is the husband dry, how many lovers do I have? If I give my consent, I will marry a real man tomorrow."
In many cases, the main reason is left aside, the shortcomings of the parents of the bride and groom are highlighted, whether a friend or relative warned them before the wedding, or whether there were conflicts between the lovers before the wedding. Differences in the information of the groom and the bride are also not left out. "Would he have done this if he was not illiterate?", "It is better to remain unmarried than to marry a highly educated wife." Sometimes the age difference is the main reason. "If your husband is older, he will teach you wisdom", "If your husband is older than you, he will crush you." Professions are also an excuse for conflict, that is, "If your husband is an artist, your family life will become a stage." Especially looking for defects related to parents. Sayings such as "Who would be the son of an alcoholic father" and "Dogs are attracted to their owners" lead to the destruction of the foundation of marriage and the destruction of the family. It's those little things that often clash in court, not couples.
Review questions:
1. Why is it difficult to think about divorces?
Your personal opinion.
2. What do you mean by "women's responsibility"?
Give real life examples.
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About the opinions of psychologists.
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What is the uniqueness of Uzbek families?
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Your attitude to statistics.