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Unplanned pregnancy
Not every child is planned, and this is a fact that not everyone recognizes. And despite the availability of many contraceptives today, most women experience unplanned pregnancies. The reaction of women and their companions to a positive pregnancy test is very individual. After the pregnancy is confirmed, many realize that they are happy when they recover from the shock, and they quickly begin to plan for the future with the child. Some do not show such passion and do not allow the idea of having a child.
How did it happen?
There is no doubt that accepting the evidence of pregnancy is an emotional dilemma in itself. When a woman is alone or does not have a stable relationship, she has another big problem. In the end, it is the woman who has to live with the consequences of her choice. It has been and probably will be. No matter how much the world has changed in terms of parental responsibilities, it is the woman who will undoubtedly be left with the child.
Common types of emotional responses to the news of an unplanned pregnancy:
- Feelings of fear and anxiety
- "Why wasn't I more careful?" "How did this happen?" and "I thought everything would be fine."
- Feelings of separation and loneliness
- Confusion and guilt
- Feelings of panic, lack of control, and feelings of crisis
- Disappointment and grief
- Surprises, happiness, shock and excitement - an unplanned pregnancy can also bring joy
Where can I turn for help?
In fact, your family and friends can help you both emotionally and practically. However, for various reasons, this is sometimes simply not possible. Religious and spiritual beliefs may prevent some people from helping you in a just and reasonable way. In these situations, it is sometimes impossible to share news about the pregnancy.
In the first few days after an unplanned pregnancy is confirmed, it is almost normal for a woman to make one decision or another. Making decisions in times of stress and crisis does not lead to good decisions in the evening or when you feel tired and exhausted.
No matter how simple it may sound, it is important to be restrained and calm every day and to control the situation. Most women recover from the initial shock within a few days and make a rational decision.
You can start a diary and write down your feelings. Often, we write down our feelings on paper and find ways to overcome them. All the pluses and minuses can be measured, and a table can be created to make it clearer. Don't think that all this should be done in one sitting. Morning is wiser than night, time puts everything in its place and helps you make wise decisions.
Other ways to support during pregnancy:
- Consult or consult a therapist working at a public medical center or hospital (public or private).
- General Practitioner.
- A priest, minister, or counselor who works in a congregational mosque. However, keep in mind that if you decide to terminate your pregnancy, their religious beliefs may prevent you from helping them.
- Local clinics - medical staff and nurses - are trained to provide care and counseling to pregnant women and girls.
Some helpful questions about unplanned pregnancies
- How do I feel about being pregnant - did I look for such an opportunity?
- How does my partner feel; Do I have to tell him, when should I tell him, and what will be his answer?
- What options do I have? Do I look at a similar situation a few years from now?
- How does pregnancy affect my study / work / home plans?
- What are my dreams and goals? How does the birth of a child affect them?
- How is this reflected in my family? All of these factors can mean different things to women of different ages, for example, if you are still studying - it will affect your parents, brothers and sisters, and if you have other children - it will affect them. Your cultural background also plays an important role.
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